Well so I have discovered blogging is not my forte huh? I have abandoned you. It has been 4 months since I wrote last. Those months have been relatively boring, which is my poor excuse for the lack of entries. But the last two months have taken quite a different tone. Here is my inept attempt at explaining things from my point of view. I will try to sum up each of the months that I failed to talk about my life.
October
The rains stopped and I was able to stay in village the whole month with only occasional weekend trips to Maroua. I did a few sessions on the environment with some primary schools in the area. One of my favorite things I did was outplanting millet with my church group. There were about 40 people that went out to the field, some were digging holes, others were pouring water into the holes and the rest were putting the millet plugs into the holes. At lunch time, they cooked a huge meal. I counted 20 huge plates of couscous and sauce, followed by tea. It was such a great day, feeling really connected to the people. One of my journal entries talked about how happy I was with that feeling of being connected. I can read back on days when I felt so alone and in the dark; having a month of being in sync was so refreshing. I finished up the month by harvesting my crops. With a lot of help. I had a big sack of peanuts, soy, groundnuts, and corn. It was really satisfying being able to work with my hands so much. But I was struck by the idea that my food intake did not depend whatsoever on what I harvested. I wonder if the hours in the sun would take a different meaning if I was constantly worried whether it was going to be enough. Some late rains ruined a lot of crops and had a lot of people worried. But they chose to sing and laugh in the fields anyway.
November
The first week of November was a tough one. I loved the rainy season, I loved seeing everything turn green and remembering what clouds looked like and storms sounded like. But there are other things that come with the rain. All that sitting water brings mosquitos. Mosquitos bring malaria. I knew so many people who got sick with malaria. When adults got it, they were usually able to take medicine and continue, but the kids took it much harder. A couple of my friends babies died. Then my counterpart got sick and passed away. He didn’t die from malaria, but another major killer in Africa, AIDS. He had been sick for four years. The feeling of being connected to my village carried over, but it was a deeper feeling of sharing their pain as well. About two days later I had to go to the South to help with training for the new group of Peace Corps trainees that had arrived in September. It was a really good trip, they seem really motivated. It felt strange to be in a place where I was giving advice, I still felt like I needed more training. I got home in time to get ready for my parent’s planned trip to come and visit. And this is where things started slipping out of my control.
December
The first week of December I spent in village, and then the next week I headed South for our midservice, which is basically a week of medical tests at the end of the first year to make sure we are still healthy. It came off without a hitch and I even got my teeth cleaned. Towards the end of the week I got the phone call from my mom that they were probably not going to come. My dad had found a lump on his neck that worried the doctors enough for them to recommend him staying home. My mom asked me if I would want to come home during that time block instead. So we agreed and I got on a plane two days later. I wish I could try to explain what was going through my head during those 48 hours, but it’s a bit difficult. I was the first one off the plane and tried to make myself walk and not run to the baggage claim and search frantically for those 5 people I left behind. Have any of you seen my niece? Well she’s beautiful. Sure she looks like my brother, but she didn’t get that pretty from him, that we owe to D’Lynn. The next two weeks were busy seeing family, eating Mexican food, playing Wii, helping my dad de-worm the cows, and laughing at some ridiculous notebooks from high school. My dad had a couple of appointments while I was home and it was nice to be there for that. But at the end of the trip, we didn’t know much more than when I got there. So New Year’s Day, I got on a plane again thinking I would meet my friends for our planned trip to Mali.
January
The 1st day of this year was pretty stressful. A broken airport tram, a couple of flights that left early, and a very unhelpful desk clerk in Dallas combined to mean an overnight stay in Chicago (that included a pretty great day in the city and at the Museum of Contemporary Art). This meant as well that going to Mali was not going to happen. I made it to Yaounde and took a trip with some girls to the beach instead. It was such a relaxing few days, swimming, eating fish, watching sunsets over islands. They were a great group to go with, and became a mini support circle when I got another of those phone calls on the way to dinner one night.
My mom called and said that my dad had cancer. He would start chemo and radiation as soon as possible. I don’t really remember much of the conversation. I remember when I hung up we were walking down a dirt road and a group of children started practicing their English and running circles around us. I started laughing and told them to respect my own personal little crisis. They just kept yelling and dancing. In the next minutes I made the decision to leave Cameroon to be with my family. It was the hardest, quickest decision I have ever made.
The past couple of weeks have been a long goodbye. I went home to my village and told people. I was overwhelmed by how much they supported my decision. They told me to greet him for them, tell him to get well soon, and thanked him for giving them this past year with me. I spent a weekend in Maroua with the other volunteers and said good-bye to most of them yesterday. The incredible amount of support and understanding I have received from Cameroonians, ex-pats, fellow volunteers, and Peace Corps staff has been a constant reminder that I am doing the right thing.
This experience hasn’t been done justice by this blog. I have become a new person, I have seen how blessed I am to come from where I am, but also how much I have missed out on. I am sure that the next few weeks will be hard: adjusting to life in the States, being there for my dad and my family in this valley. But one thing I have learned for sure in this year is that life is not in the laughter and yelling and dancing only. It’s in the tears and the anger and sadness mixed with the laughing, yelling and dancing. It’s all of it together. And we are never alone.